It’s that time of year again! Are you being bombarded with media messages about love and romance? This can be annoying, or even depressing, when you’re going through chemotherapy or other cancer treatments. Romance is just not front of mind when you’re fighting for your life and perhaps not looking your best!
I propose a different approach to Valentine’s Day when you’re dealing with cancer, an approach that I experienced when I was living in Mexico.
In Spanish, Valentine’s Day is called “El Día del Amor y la Amistad,” or “love and friendship day.” Valentine’s Day as I celebrated in Mexico was less about romance and more about platonic love and family bonds. People gave cards and small gifts to their children, coworkers and friends. They expressed appreciation for each other and for unity. To be sure, there was also romance, but the romance was secondary.
Let’s embrace this broad definition of love and take time this February to show appreciation and love to those that matter to us. Our neighbors, colleagues and friends. Our siblings, children and parents. And of course, our spouse or partner also needs some recognition but no grand gestures are needed – just a heartfelt note or even a “thank you for being you” text.
While celebrating love is not a cure-all for disease, especially not for cancer, expressing love and gratitude can help us feel better. In Braving Chemo, I say:
“Seeking the company of supportive friends and family is a way to boost your spirits. When you surround yourself with those who love you, it can help you feel happier and more hopeful.”
Whether you’re dealing with chemotherapy, recovering from surgery or living with cancer’s aftermath years later, allowing yourself to receive and express all forms of love can be very healing.
¡Feliz Día del Amor y la Amistad!
